Everyday issues become stressful. We always start the day on a plan and try to live out that plan but there’s always something that comes up, which derails that plan. The high hopes we had for the day or for a specific project feel as though they’re no longer attainable. We’ve started to overthink and think the worst in situations. Next thing we know, our minds have spiraled out of control into a place we can’t get out of.
It happens to all of us. We usually stress about things when we don’t have any control over them. Everything that we started with is now scattered in multiple directions. We don’t know what is working and not working. We don’t take the time to breathe nor think. It’s all about go, go, go. It’s immediately thinking about another way to go about things. A lot of times, we can’t fathom something out of our reach and we don’t have a particular time it’s supposed to happen.
Here are a few ways to reduce your stress that has helped and continues to help me stay leveled.
Pray/ Read a Devotional
In everything that happens in your life, the best way to get through something is prayer. It doesn’t have to be perfect. You don’t even have to know what to say. It doesn’t have to make sense. Trust me, I’ve been there. The Holy Spirit will begin to form the words for you. If you’re not good at speaking and haven’t gotten to the point where you’re comfortable speaking to God, no worries. There are plenty of ways God can and will hear you.
You can begin writing. Get a notebook and pen and begin writing. What I’ve learned over the years is that when you put pen to paper, no lie can come from your heart. You are literally writing out how you feel, what’s going on within. It’s like writing a letter to yourself...but of course including God. Remember, you can probably fool other people with your emotions but you can’t fool yourself nor God.
Sometimes you don’t know how to write down your feelings, that’s okay. You can think about them. Yes, I know that may sound a little crazy but believe me, you probably already talk to yourself as it is. Psalm 139:4 “Even before I speak, you already know what I will say.” God knows what we’re going to say before we say it or think it. Psalm 139:2 “You know everything I do; from far away you understand all my thoughts.”
Also, you can read a devotional.
Sometimes, when I get so stressed out, I can’t form the words in my mind nor in my mouth so I’ll try to find a specific devotional that helps me understand how I’m feeling. On the Bible app, there are a plethora of emotions you can choose from. On the explore page, it helps you figure out how you’re feeling in the moment. That way it’ll show you devotionals that coincide with your feelings. Sometimes though, I honestly don’t know how I’m feeling so I just read different devotional titles that would assist with truly putting my words together as to how I’m feeling.
If you have been following me for a while and watching my stories, you’ll know that I’ve started back doing yoga 5 times a week. It helps me to center myself and wipes away my fears, my insecurities. It helps me escape my troubles and pain. For however long the session is, I’m in a different world. Yoga puts your mind at ease. For the time being, it takes away the difficulties of everyday life. Also, with yoga, you can’t get mad or stay mad at anything. You may ask why, because you won’t be able to breathe. If you know anything about yoga, it’s all about breathing. It’s about centering yourself, believing in yourself, understanding where you are in the moment. You don’t have time to be upset when you’re moving in different and sometimes difficult positions.
What I’ve learned is that when I’m upset or feel stressed about something, I hold it in. That's what we do. We hold it in and don’t know we are. We don’t know who or how to talk about what we’re going through. So we hold it in. When you begin doing yoga and you’re about to go into a downward dog position, a warrior position, or a crow position, you have to focus. That means you have to transfer all of your energy you once had on being upset or stressed about something to relaxing and breathing to make sure you are doing the pose correctly but more importantly you don’t hurt yourself.
A lot of times when we’re frustrated, we become angry. It’s once again, something we keep to ourselves and it begins to build up until we explode. Well, instead of waiting until you explode, go to Netflix and watch a comedy special, a tv show, or a movie. What they say about laughter is really true. “Laughter is the best medicine.” It’s another escape. You let your guard down when you begin to laugh. Your stress level begins to decrease. You begin to feel better. You stop worrying about things you can’t control. You allow yourself to have fun.
Stress is equal to control. From lack of control births fear and anger and many other things that aren’t healthy for us. You can literally kill yourself from having so much stress because that stress is over working the most vital muscle in your body, the heart.
So please take care of yourself and try a few of these methods and let me know how you feel. I hope you feel better and do right by yourself. Talk soon.