Things to do Before Starting a Family

A few years ago, I thought my life would be so much simpler, more traditional, where you go to school, get a job in your field, get married, have kids, and live your life until you retire. Welp, God had other plans for my future and it will include these but definitely not in this order. The timing God has for me to come into what I’m believing in, will surely come, just not in the time I had planned.

Your time is coming so what do you do for the time being?

Find out what you want to do before you have a family and do it.

Travel: You’ve probably heard people say this many times and it’s so true.  Travel the world.  Get out and experience this free life of nothing and noone holding you down.  Have a great time enjoying life and yourself. 

Study another language. You never know, it will definitely come in handy.  

Explore more of your current state.  Yes this includes traveling as well but you’re traveling within the state.  If you haven’t noticed, there’s so many hidden gems where you are that you have yet to discover. Take the opportunity and do it now. 

Continue your Education: If you’ve been thinking about going back to school, this is the best time. Get all of your studying in while you can, with no interruption. This is recommended by any mom. 

TLC: Spoil yourself with a self-care day or week. A few times, I’ll splurge on myself and get a mani and pedi, go to the movies (I’ll have to wait until they reopen), and take myself out to eat. If you think about it, it’s called “Date Yourself.” Show yourself the love and attention you need. Get away from the hustle and bustle of work life and enjoy a time of serenity.  After all, you do deserve it. 


Be Prepared

If you’re not organized now, get yourself on a daily routine that works for you.  Sometimes, in order for you to receive what you’re asking for, you have to prepare.  You can’t just think that it’s going to fall in your lap.  Remember, you have to put in the work and you can’t wait until the last minute. It doesn’t matter how long something takes, it all comes down to preparation. What are you going to do when the time comes? 

Caring for others: For instance, I have a dog, who needs food, love, attention, and care.  While I’m waiting for my time as a wife and mother, I’m preparing myself with my dog and making sure I take care of him as best as I possibly can.

Multitask: I’m learning to multitask.  If I’m cooking and I’m waiting for the chicken to finish baking, I can go ahead and cook the sides on the stove, I can wash dishes, I can clean up, I can keep busy while I’m waiting on something else. 

Make Your Bed: Once I get out of bed, I like to immediately make my bed.  This means, I’m starting my day off on the right foot. 

Start Cooking: I don’t really eat out anymore and if I do, there may be something in particular that I’m craving. The more I eat in, the better I learn how to cook.  

Save Your Money: Even though earlier I said to splurge on yourself, I hope it’s evident that when it’s just you and your husband, you’ll need to know how to save. There’ll be family emergencies, trips you would like to take, and home breakdowns you’ll need to take care of, so it’s best to not spend so much but save your money as well.  Try saving at least $50 every paycheck or if you can do more, please do.  What helps is knowing you have a reason why you’re saving that makes it more interesting.  When you place the money in your savings account, don’t take it out.  Keep your eye on the reward.  This helped me to save thousands of dollars before I moved from home to my current location.  If I can do it, you can too.

I hope these tips were helpful.  If you have any questions or comments, please don’t hesitate to leave them below.  I’d love to hear from you.



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